Not just me, but most of us suffer from this trap of making career decisions based on the influence of large group surrounding us, especially immediate surroundings. We tend to flow with them without wanting to disappoint our family, relations and society.
Sometimes this has been helpful for some of us but many a times this is just us taking the decisions and trying to force fit ourselves into the system. In my case, I was influenced by friends, family, relations, teachers and even the society and culture along with mass media. Even the career forums attended established the same ideas of having job security and flowing with the current job trends without giving importance to other values. Such groups fail to embrace uncertainty in life.
Fear of losing the support of close aides and loyalty to those surrounding us make us confirm to the stereotypical decisions made throughout years by many like us. It is not because we have been offered the wrong guidance but we missed the right guidance from people who have a real understanding of life. The group surrounding me made me to choose a career based solely on my academic strengths.
If it had not been for the group, my decisions would have been primarily based on my interests, values and talents rather than academics. I would have taken more risks but calculated risks and would have been more pro-active in my life, rather than just being reactive. First, I would have been forced to think about other options and visualise my future rather than living the stereotyped dreams of those surrounding me. It took me years to realize my values, interest and talents to finally move a career of my choice